Should you need a license to have kids?

[Emadyville]

The title sounds odd, I didn't know how else to word it, but...

We need to be tested to get a driver's license, we need to be a certain age to gamble, buy alcohol, get a loan (which includes someone else signing as well), to go to a strip club, etc.

I mean, I can't go to a strip club when I'm 14 but I can have a child...

Yet there is NOTHING that has to be done to allow someone to have a child. I find this odd only in the sense that bringing another life into this world I feel is possibly one of the most powerful things we can all do.

Someone had mentioned to me once and this came to mind with Coleons debate, someone had said you should need a license to be able to have a child.

I understand there is a lot more involved in this, the most obvious being "if you say you'd need a license would that mean you'd have to get an abortion if you got pregnant without one?" but I don't want this to turn into a religious debate, or one about abortion being murder.

EDIT: let me also add the fact that to adopt you need to be approved, and I'm sure you all know how strict that process is.

I'm just really curious what you all think, should you need some proof (being the license) you're able to afford, house, clothe, feed, school, take care of, and are responsible enough to have a child?

[Dark Blue]

i never thought about this but i gotta say i agree with u, i think it's crazy that teens r havin babys(most want a baby for the money) some parents aren't fit to take even take care of the baby... but there again it's very hard to stop teens from having sex so i don't think they can do much about it

[Sophie]

It's interesting...and in some cases yes, but...to be a parent is something you have to learn along the way, people have different views on what makes a good parent, obviously there are the basic standard rules, like providing for them etc, but all the other stuff that makes a good parent, people have different ideas on strictness, disciplin etc, and whether or not there are a majority that agree on that, there's still the minority that don't.

On the other hand I think there should be because some people seriously don't know how to bring up children, because they have to go through it with the adoption, but then agian what gives people the right to decide the right rules etc?...It's an interesting question could bring up many arguments.

[Emadyville]

Yeah exactly why I thought I would bring it up.

And you have a great point about how a lot of people learn how to be parents, I mean unless you babysat your siblings or even had younger siblings, worked in a daycare, etc. you wouldn't have that experience; also the point on discipline and parenting ways was brought up as well, but I feel both points are something that wouldn't be taken into consideration because they can't really be judged since you need to be a parent first.

So I think it would come down to the other things I mentioned in the original post with being able to afford, have a place to live, etc.

[Sophie]

^ well, even if you had a place to live, could afford etc, does that make you a good parent? because you might have that and might be able to afford a nanny and all while the mother goes off to her tea parties somewhere, so that still doesn't make her a good parent, although she's providing..a child needs more then that.

[Emadyville]

^ well, even if you had a place to live, could afford etc, does that make you a good parent? because you might have that and might be able to afford a nanny and all while the mother goes off to her tea parties somewhere, so that still doesn't make her a good parent, although she's providing..a child needs more then that.

Yeah I know, I mean it's not about how you will be as a parent, it's if you have the basics needed for you to take care of a child. So basically no one under 18 and most likely 22-25 would be having kids otherwise, or those who can't afford it and are poor.

[embm]

interestin
tats not a bad idea esp afta hearin fucked up shit in news like mom puts her kids in freezer or w/e

[Emadyville]

Kind of get what you mean and where you're coming from, but it really does rise a question, how to deal with accidental pregnancies or pregnancies going against this 'law' on purpose?

However I don't agree with it. I think parenting is a learning process, which is different to everyone, so saying you have to do this or that to be a parent is insane. Robotic, if you ask me. Children aren't suppose to be like a chore.

Yeah, I mean it's not like I had a plan, it was merely an idea that someone said to me I thought was worth bringing up on here. I couldn't even think of any way to set something up, but it sure is an interesting thought/topic

[SajN]

should you need some proof (being the license) you're able to afford, house, clothe, feed, school, take care of, and are responsible enough to have a child?

Millions of people are poor or have some health problems or something. Shouldn't they have same access to the happyness of having a child like any other people?

Some people feel empty without a family, and would really like one, but if they were to have a "license" then they wouldn't get allowed to, because they are poor or something. That would just make their life more miserable, knowing that they can't have a family.


Also, being tested to see if you can have a child, can be ethically/morally (Or something else) wrong, because who would like someone to decide if they are good or not, who would like to stop them from giving birth to another creature, who would like someone to stop a family from growing because they are poor or somehing?

I see your point though. I just thought instead of agreeing and say the same stuff like everyone else, I'll add something new.

[Sophie]

^ I didn't say that you copied the wrong person

[SajN]

^ I didn't say that you copied the wrong person

Wow, that was weird, how did that happen

Funny thing is, yesterday when this topic was made... I read Sophie instead of Emadyville, so I was like: Of course, only she would make a topic like this

[Sophie]

Well apparently not

I'll still answer what you said though..

Millions of people are poor or have some health problems or something. Shouldn't they have same access to the happyness of having a child like any other people?

Why bring a child up in poor? Surely that's not good for the child.

Some people feel empty without a family, and would really like one, but if they were to have a "license" then they wouldn't get allowed to, because they are poor or something. That would just make their life more miserable, knowing that they can't have a family.

i'm not sure if the license would cost...but even if it did, if they wanted a child that bad then they'd do something about it.

Also, being tested to see if you can have a child, can be ethically/morally (Or something else) wrong, because who would like someone to decide if they are good or not, who would like to stop them from giving birth to another creature, who would like someone to stop a family from growing because they are poor or somehing?

Again with the poor thing lol. Although i do agree with the rest, that it's morally wrong to be tested to see if you can have a child, because who says the person who's testing them is right for that part?

[Raquel]

hmm thats a good question.
I got some diff ideas..if you're a teen, like 14 years old..i think you can't have a baby...i think that if you get pregnant at that age appart from abortion, you should give it n adoption or that an adult(father ,mother) say that he/she will take care of the baby...cuz a teenager normally cant grow up really good a baby. So imo if you're minor and are pregnant you should need an adult who take care of the baby...a deal or something like that..
but if you're an adult..even if you're poor you must have the right of having a baby...maybe it won't be good for the kid.. but anyways you can't make that ilegall or whatever. Poor people deserve be happy and have a family too.

[Sophie]

maybe it won't be good for the kid.. but anyways you can't make that ilegall or whatever. Poor people deserve be happy and have a family too.

If it's not good for the kid then how is that a good thing?

[Raquel]

maybe it won't be good for the kid.. but anyways you can't make that ilegall or whatever. Poor people deserve be happy and have a family too.

If it's not good for the kid then how is that a good thing?

I mean...that kid won't have as much things as the other kids...maybe the kid will suffer a lot. But you can't do it illegal, you're an adult, you know what would happen and you can decide to have it or not. I didn't say it was a good thing.
There are thousand kids without anything in the world, so if that that was illegal...there will be barely kids