Why do people change when they get in a relationship

[Fleka]

I will never understand this. For example, your whole life you hang out with your friends, play basketball or football with them, you are a member of a basketball, football, paintball, bicycle, baseball... club. You live a normal life where you work or go to school, hang out with your friends, you go out on weekends. And then you meet a girl/boy and you get in a serious relationship. And most people here just forget about friends and hobbies and all the stuff they did their whole life. and what is even worse, it is like everybody expects you to act that way. Like, if I have a girlfriend, I can´t go out with the guys or play basketball every day, or play PS3 whole night.

Does the normal life end when you commit yourself to another person. I know things change when you get involved in a serious relationship, but not that drasticly. I think that is the way people were thinking in 18th century and that shit still lives. And when you stop doing the things you love, what is the point of living? What is the point of a relationship if you have to stop being yourself?

People are stupid and make their lives harder for no reason.

I have this friend whi is not a friend anymore, because of that. Because of a fucking relationship and his bitch girl. But, even though she is a bitch, I blame him. They are together for the last two years, and in that period he went from one of my closest friends to the person I don`t even call anymore. Since he has a girl he didn`t once played football with us or joined us for a drink or watched the game with us. And we would get together for someones birthday, he would act like we are strangers. I think you can`t get more idiotic than that.

So, why do you think people act that way?

[Trimss]

Well, there are some things that you have to understand.

Before I had my actual girlfriend, I had a group with girls and boys but mostly girls who I use to hang out with. But in that group, there's a ex of mine. So my girlfriend doesn't really want me to go out with them when she's there and I really understand her, because if the situation was in the other way, i would have done the same.

Noow.. I got a friend who is really a faggot. I love him, but he's a faggot. His girlfriend tells him what he has to do and shit, and he listens to her like he's a dog or something. If she says "don't play football anymore" he'll never play again.

And that is fucked up, because there's nothing wrong with hanging out with your friends. I mean, I started to play football and I won't stop it even if she wants me to. But I never had a group of "male" friends so I'm not really in your position.. Anyway, I just wanted to say that your friend does not feel the need to hang out with all of you anymore because he got a chick.

In otherwords, girlfriends give blow job and sex, friends don't.

[Fleka]

See, my friend feels what his girlfriend wats him to feel. And no matter how good blowjob the girl gives, living without friends is something I could not do.

And it`s not just a group of "male" friends. Sure, we, the guys play basketball and football together. But, when we hang out, there are girls in that group of friends. I don`t agree with you on this one.

[macdaddy019967]

your obviously a virgin Fleka,

He wants the pussy and the pussy is keeping him tied down
im assuming this "friend " of yours is a young kid and thats why he is in love with this girl.
Pussy changes a lot of people
#macdaddyspeaksthetruth

[Fleka]

your obviously a virgin Fleka,

He wants the pussy and the pussy is keeping him tied down
im assuming this "friend " of yours is a young kid and thats why he is in love with this girl.
Pussy changes a lot of people
#macdaddyspeaksthetruth

Haha, he is 25 for fuck sake.

[Slim Fiasco]

It's another form of selling out. Liking a girl that likes you back causes good feelings and many assholes get addicted to it (and not to mention sex). However, friends were here before the girl and will be after she's gone so the guy needs to check himself. The better feeling shouldn't always be our preference (alcohol and drugs make a good example) and we need to realize the importance of friendship.

And as you said, it's not only that but we should also remember our passions and don't let 'em fall apart. Relationships do ask for a certain compromise though, but you need to look at it as a shitty first single for your album. It's OK to have one or two of those but don't pull of a Lasers you stupid fuck.

[Guess_Who]

Well, the easy thing here would be to blame his girlfriend, but it is wrong.
I can't talk for everybody but in my case I used to go out with my friends much more when I wasn't in a relation. The reason? Sometimes me and my boyfriend just want to stay in home and watch a movie, or go out alone.
So I have less time for my friends and I'm a bit disconnected from their moves.Same for my boyfriend. My friends blame on him.His friends blame on me.
Now that we share an apartament is different, because that's mean a lot of hours together, so I feel that we need to do more things separate.I can't be 24/7 with anyone. So I have more time for my friends. And he stays a lot of more time with his friends too. Anyway they keep saying that we change.

People change, maybe he has less time, maybe he prefers to stay with his girlfriend,or maybe he realized thay you think his girlfriend is a bitch can be a lot of reasons. People change and we don't have a contract with our friends, maybe what was good once it is not that good anymore.

[Fleka]

Oh, we tried to accept that bitch. We were all nice to her just because of him.

[Guess_Who]

Oh, we tried to accept that bitch. We were all nice to her just because of him.

maybe she noticed the real feelings...women are good in that. And men are bad in hide real feelings

[Sam.]

This happens when you don't get the warmth of love from your peeps and look for it in another's arms.

[Slim Fiasco]

This happens when you don't get the warmth of love from your peeps and look for it in another's arms.

There's definitely some truth in that.

[Devil'sAdvocate]

how about going the easy route,and get a girlfriend who was a friend of yours before?

#REALSHIT!

but nah seriously,it all comes down to one fucking thing,instincts.

[Devil'sAdvocate]

It's always bros before hoes

thats a fucking lie.

you have this hot bombshell,apple bottom ass,just waiting for the right moment to give it up to you,and you have your friends,6 of them,3 girls,3 boys,you will never fuck any of the girls,the friendzone is a fucking disease,the 6 friends wanna chill on a saturday,or you can go with your girl but you have to bail on ya friends,im pretty sure the girl will be picked,its nothing to be ashamed off,its fucking INSTINCTS,its what SHOULD be happening.

[AbramIsaac]

Oxy-muthafuckin-tocin. Your friend is addicted to the love hormone.

[Devil'sAdvocate]

look bro,recess time,you in a school,do you chill with ya friends or with a girl that aint in ya class that you like/love/wannafuck?

FUCKING THOUGHT SO!