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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby shadyblogger » May 30th, '14, 02:02

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IBasicallyRage wrote:Atone, I feel you and your sisters pain, I was bullied in elementary and middle school, up until the point where i was afraid to go to school, but as I got older, mainly in middle school, I realized I was much bigger than most of the other kids.. I ended up fighting back and the bullying decreased. Now thats how I solved some of my dilemma, only I'm guessing your sister doesn't want to get physical against anyone. Her school, Your guys school, is fucked up. From what I've heard from you not only just now, but also from speaking to you on GTA, the school is in a pretty bad shape. The day I stayed home from school, I heard her through your mic, your sister arrived home and begin yelling, You then told me she was angry from all of the bullying.. When you have such a fuck up school.. its hard to deal with all the problems you're facing... If only some way the school would be changed, faculty fired, and bullying be taken care of... Tell her to Hold strong, I feel her pain.


I didn't know that about you :'( My heart goes out to you and everyone else who is struggling with bullying or knows someone is dealing with it. I faced some bullying (mostly verbal though) in middle school and it maybe extended somewhat into my first year of high school but now I'm doing ok. I think a lot of it was that I was a particularly small kid who didn't hit his growth spurt until high school whereas most kids were getting taller/bigger in middle school. I also was pretty socially awkward and felt different from a lot of the other kids (but I've worked through that and am much healthier socially and my self-esteem is much higher now; I think part of the emotional weakness also had to do with how my Dad treated me at times).

But overall becoming taller (which we can't really control), becoming more confident (which you can control even if you have to fake it in the beginning), and listening to music particularly Eminem all helped me to fight back against some bullies or rather not let their words or actions get to me as much either.

All I gotta say is stay strong and be confident. I know it's a thousand times easier said than done but just be yourself. And pursue what you love and live your life and don't care what others think about and just surround yourself with people that bring you up, not down. I know it sounds corny and I got a bit personal but I feel it's important to share your stories and your experience, strength, and hope to help others get through hard times.

Right back at you bro. :'( I can kind of understand what it was like for you. I didn't know any of that about you either.

I visited a counselor a couple times because she wanted to speak to me. Today was one of those times. She told me that I have a thick shell, a hard outer shell that no one is allowed in.. She asks me if I have anyone to speak to, let my mind out to.

I tell her yes, because I do, my girlfriend, I tell her everything, she and my counselor both know I have a hard shell.. And a softer inside. I try not to show too many emotions.


My counselor, I've told her, that not only do I have someone to talk to and pour my emotions out to, I told her I write a lot, to express not only emotions, but anger and everything I have built up. She doesn't know what kind of writing, obviously it's rap, but she wants to see them, but it ain't gonna happen. Lol

I have been getting better with stuff, I'm alright, I will be alright from now on.

And right back at you man, Good on you bro, stay cool, hold on, you've got it Homie. We both do.

And Atone same on you and your sister, like Blogger said, stay confident, stay strong, just push on through.


Thanks man :y:

That's great you have your girlfriend to share everything with tbh
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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby IBasicallyRage » May 30th, '14, 02:05

Yeah man, and I can share with others, I just usually don't. Like on here I've opened up on this thread more than I have to anyone besides my girl. I know it's on here for anyone to see but, no one knows me, so it's cool lol
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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby shadyblogger » May 30th, '14, 02:07

IBasicallyRage wrote:Yeah man, and I can share with others, I just usually don't. Like on here I've opened up on this thread more than I have to anyone besides my girl. I know it's on here for anyone to see but, no one knows me, so it's cool lol


Yeah I get it
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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby Atone » May 30th, '14, 02:11

IBasicallyRage wrote:
Atone wrote:So after a convo with my sister today that fucked me up emotionally a bit, the fact that she even fears going to a different school, and is afraid she will never make friends, because these bullies have fucked up her self esteem so bad that she is afraid of being judged by any new people she meets, i kinda got pissed off and decided to write a nice, long e-mail to the vice chairman of the distrcit school board about the neglagents of the school faculty, it may be to late to do anything now because there's 3 days of school left, but hey, maybe i can get a few shitty ass teachers fired for ignoring my sisters countless plea's for help.

The things my sister told me today made me wish i wasn't over 18, i'd be kicking the shit out of all those punk ass kids that think it's fun to just harass people all day.

I know man, I want to beat the shit out of bullies everyday, only I'm 16... In New York, I'd be going to jail.


It was hard enough for me to even speak up and talk to a few of the bullies at her bus stop one day, because they were all girls, i had to be sure to record the entire convo because i know howsome girls can get and i don't need of them punk kids goin to police sayin i touched em or some shit, these girls even showed up to my house one day wanting to "hang" with my sister, i went outside and confronted them then to

some of these kids fight each other all the time on my street, always outside in the street yelling at each other, one of the girls that were bullying my sister at one point, was GETTING bullied while i was repainting my front door, i stood up for her and they all left her alone, she doesn't bother my sister anymore, i think cuz me and her came to an understanding, idk, i guess she felt maybe i was good to her so she backed down, i'm the type of person that in real life, i have always tried to help everybody, sometimes it doesn't always turn out as planned but, other times things seem to, work for the best i guess

but it's gone wayyyy to far, i mean, boys on the bus are calling my sister an "ugly ass bitch" daily, and telling her to close her slutty legs, which is, dumb as hell, she aint even sexually active but they call her a slut, i mean, wtf lol, i don't understand why people purpously want to hurt others like that.
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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby IBasicallyRage » May 30th, '14, 02:18

Atone wrote:
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Atone wrote:So after a convo with my sister today that fucked me up emotionally a bit, the fact that she even fears going to a different school, and is afraid she will never make friends, because these bullies have fucked up her self esteem so bad that she is afraid of being judged by any new people she meets, i kinda got pissed off and decided to write a nice, long e-mail to the vice chairman of the distrcit school board about the neglagents of the school faculty, it may be to late to do anything now because there's 3 days of school left, but hey, maybe i can get a few shitty ass teachers fired for ignoring my sisters countless plea's for help.

The things my sister told me today made me wish i wasn't over 18, i'd be kicking the shit out of all those punk ass kids that think it's fun to just harass people all day.

I know man, I want to beat the shit out of bullies everyday, only I'm 16... In New York, I'd be going to jail.


It was hard enough for me to even speak up and talk to a few of the bullies at her bus stop one day, because they were all girls, i had to be sure to record the entire convo because i know howsome girls can get and i don't need of them punk kids goin to police sayin i touched em or some shit, these girls even showed up to my house one day wanting to "hang" with my sister, i went outside and confronted them then to

some of these kids fight each other all the time on my street, always outside in the street yelling at each other, one of the girls that were bullying my sister at one point, was GETTING bullied while i was repainting my front door, i stood up for her and they all left her alone, she doesn't bother my sister anymore, i think cuz me and her came to an understanding, idk, i guess she felt maybe i was good to her so she backed down, i'm the type of person that in real life, i have always tried to help everybody, sometimes it doesn't always turn out as planned but, other times things seem to, work for the best i guess

but it's gone wayyyy to far, i mean, boys on the bus are calling my sister an "ugly ass bitch" daily, and telling her to close her slutty legs, which is, dumb as hell, she aint even sexually active but they call her a slut, i mean, wtf lol, i don't understand why people purpously want to hurt others like that.

I know the sexual remarks are stupid, man. You're doing a good job, you're doing all you can :y:
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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby shadyblogger » May 30th, '14, 02:38

Atone wrote:
IBasicallyRage wrote:
Atone wrote:So after a convo with my sister today that fucked me up emotionally a bit, the fact that she even fears going to a different school, and is afraid she will never make friends, because these bullies have fucked up her self esteem so bad that she is afraid of being judged by any new people she meets, i kinda got pissed off and decided to write a nice, long e-mail to the vice chairman of the distrcit school board about the neglagents of the school faculty, it may be to late to do anything now because there's 3 days of school left, but hey, maybe i can get a few shitty ass teachers fired for ignoring my sisters countless plea's for help.

The things my sister told me today made me wish i wasn't over 18, i'd be kicking the shit out of all those punk ass kids that think it's fun to just harass people all day.

I know man, I want to beat the shit out of bullies everyday, only I'm 16... In New York, I'd be going to jail.


It was hard enough for me to even speak up and talk to a few of the bullies at her bus stop one day, because they were all girls, i had to be sure to record the entire convo because i know howsome girls can get and i don't need of them punk kids goin to police sayin i touched em or some shit, these girls even showed up to my house one day wanting to "hang" with my sister, i went outside and confronted them then to

some of these kids fight each other all the time on my street, always outside in the street yelling at each other, one of the girls that were bullying my sister at one point, was GETTING bullied while i was repainting my front door, i stood up for her and they all left her alone, she doesn't bother my sister anymore, i think cuz me and her came to an understanding, idk, i guess she felt maybe i was good to her so she backed down, i'm the type of person that in real life, i have always tried to help everybody, sometimes it doesn't always turn out as planned but, other times things seem to, work for the best i guess

but it's gone wayyyy to far, i mean, boys on the bus are calling my sister an "ugly ass bitch" daily, and telling her to close her slutty legs, which is, dumb as hell, she aint even sexually active but they call her a slut, i mean, wtf lol, i don't understand why people purpously want to hurt others like that.


That's awful. Every time I hear something like this I wanna kill a bunch of people that have only treated kids like shit for years. Incessant bullying makes me so mad
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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby PAINKILLƎR » May 30th, '14, 02:46


did anybody click my link

shits sad
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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby Atone » May 30th, '14, 04:28

PAINKILLƎR wrote:

did anybody click my link

shits sad


It's unfortanate things had to go that far
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Re: Bullying, How Far Does It Go?

Postby Atone » May 30th, '14, 19:25

A little update on this whole bullying situation

After today there is 2 days left of school, not much can be done to stop the bully's now, in fact, my sister stayed home all week, thats how difficult it is for her, she fears going to school, this morning, my dad was trying to get her to get up for school and it led to a major argument, both of them yelling at each other, i ended up getting in the middle, and had to calm them both down, my dad, felt like i'm always trying to mediate and always take my sisters side, he didn't fully understand the situation of why my sister acts like she does

this lead to a huge breakdown from me, i've never spoke to my father, or evenh my mother when she was around, about what i went thru, i always kept it bottled up, until this morning, now, my sister has NEVER seen me cry, when my mom left, i kept it in, i held the tears and wanted to stay strong in front of my sister, but, this morning, my sister was shovked because i broke down into tears explaining to the both of them that i went thru the same thing, i had to explain to my dad that i to had the same fears/anxiety/depression and anger when going thru it, and at the same time, i was explaining to my sister that it did get better when i changed schools,my dad calmed all the way down because i don't think he realized just how bad my situation was, nor how bad it was for my sister, my dad, at the age of 13, was well over 6 foot, nobody was fucking with him in school, lol, but, i got both of them to calm down, my dad to see the whole story, and i got my sister to, sort of understand that things will get better.

ALSO, last night, i looked up the school board contact info and e-mailed the vice chairman of the school board about the bullying situation, as well as the fact that the guidance counselor has ignored my sister numorous times, now, i know it's to late to stop the bully's now with just 2 days of school left, but, i figure, why not attempt to have something done about the teachers/counselor, at first, i didn't think it would work.

Not even an hour after i sent the E-Mail he responded, and forwarded my e-mail to the main guy from the school board, AND HE even sent me an e-mail, got my sisters name, and as of 10 A.M a full investigation into the entire situation is being done, in my e-mail i spoke deeply about my sisters situation, and the fact that she has been ignored by teachers about it, and pleaded that something be done, and if nothing was done about it, i would contact actual police, as well as news reporters who could report on the neglagents of the school faculty, idk if thats why he was so quick to respond or not, but it worked.

i also plan to write a full on essay about the effects of bullying, and the torture it can put people through, and send it to newspapers and online blogs, i have a few friends that told me they want to help me do that as well, i know, there are already a ton of "voices" out there trying to do the same thing i am, but, maybe one more voice will cause a hundred more voices, if enough bully victems speak out, maybe it CAN change things.
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