Cheating

[James R.]

So you're in a relationship with someone. What do you consider cheating and is it forgivable?

Personally I think any type of sex is an automatic give me my shit and never talk to me again type of thing. A kiss... it would really depend on the situation. Then anything that hinted at an emotional investment would more or less result in exile from my life. So personal emails, text messages, IMs, phone calls. Shit like that.

The next question is: If you cheated at some point in the relationship, would you tell your significant other? If they told you about them cheating or you caught them cheating, would you tell them then and call it even or would you just call the whole thing off?

I'd tell them and break up with them because I'd be such a hypocrite I wouldn't want to trouble someone with my bull shit. And if I caught them cheating after I had cheated I'd definitely just call it off. Obviously the relationship wasn't meant to work if neither of us can stay faithful

Discuss (this is probably going to be very one sided)

[theJFKshow]

I think there are different levels of cheating. Like even flirting with someone else is a very small form of cheating to me. When it starts to get sexual (kissing etc.), then there should be no forgiveness. No one changes their ways.


If I did cheat I would feel terrible, but I wouldn't tell her. What she doesn't know won't hurt her!

[Eminem1976]

Cheating to me is any form of contact beyond friendship with a person while in a relationship with another. I wouldn't tolerate even the smallest form of cheating, because it creates a distrusting atmosphere surrounding the relationship. And a REAL relationship cannot work without trust.

I would never cheat on my girlfriend, if I had a problem with her I would tell her about it. Not go out and find another girl to sleep with. This prevents me from ever needing to tell her whether or not I have cheated.

completely agree!!

let's say you walked in on your significant other cheating on you, meaning caught them in the act, how would you handle it? would you go postal on both of em?

if i caught my wife i would kick them both out of my house. if kids r involved i would keep my cool, but it would just be me and my kids from that point on.

[Tash8]

To Quote LaDanion Tomlinson: "if you ain't cheating, you ain't trying"

anyways, all depends on the situation. I haven't had that done to me (from my knowledge) and I haven't done it someone else.

[James R.]

Got some good replies.

Tru... you're awesome. You're down for a 3some and you'd be cool if I just banged some girl just cuz she was hot and was there spread eagle? That's wassup.

Gotta go with Maybe on this one. Don't cheat on me cuz I won't cheat on you. It's pretty much one strike and you're done with me. I can MAYBE see myself forgiving a kiss, but it'd have to be some seriously amazing excuses being thrown my way.

[James R.]

Yeah I understand where you're coming from, but to me it's like someone can't choose to do that to someone and ACTUALLY care about them. The emotional investment in the other guy would kick me while I was down, but it seems to me that a girl that actually cared about me wouldn't have sex with another guy. Just like if I actually cared about a girl I wouldn't have sex with another girl. It seems to me that disregarding your boy/girlfriend's emotions like that more or less says "Hey, you're great and all, but I'm not all that invested in this." Maybe it's just me. I've seen too many situations where someone cheats on someone else and is forgiven only to do it again. I'm not a big believer in people changing. 92.59% of the time they are the way they are and have no desire to change.

But you're totally right about that look but don't touch. Girls are just as, if not more horny than guys, they just hide it better. I mean girls were built for sex. Guys don't have an organ that is ONLY good for sexual stimulation. I mean a clit has is it 2 or 3 times as many nerves as the most sensitive part of a guys dick? The temptation is there for both sexes, guys are just dumber and more obvious about it.

[Tornado]

For any cheating, to me, the relationship should be ended, like Maybe said, becasue the relationship is
worthless now if one person isnt loyal because he or her is not loving the other as they should.

feels proud his thread inspired this one

[,-,'-{Bar}-',-,]

scenarios here.


really drunk and your girl kisses another guy but stops after that and tells you as soon as she see's you and apologies ect.

id be pissed but i could forgive her, but i would say to her about trust issues coz if you aint there and shes drinking you would always be wondering if she did it again and that leads to being over protective or being paranoid and that can turn a relashionship really nasty really fast.


any sex in any situation, immediate end of relashionship, sex never "just happens" coz its not a quick thing like a breif kiss, its got foreplay then the actually act you know what your doin no matter how drunk, unless ofcourse your ko'd on the floor but then its rape. so no matter what its ended then coz they ment to or wanted to do it, fuck lust if they cant figure the difference bewtween lust and love then there's no point in it.

flirting but nothing would ever happen is kool with me, its dangerous coz it could go to far and real feelings start getting involved but a person like me i flirt with everyone, freinds/random girls, id never do anything its just fun to joke around and flirt. so i dont care about that.

txt'in and shit were its beyond flirting can get resolved imo coz it could just be something like one part of the couple not showing enough affection and it could be resolved.


but for me sex is isntant end of relashionship no matter the circumstances.

[James R.]

Bar I agree with you. The party scenario I've seen in two forms.

1.) the way you said it. The boyfriend walks in and she's like "Fuck!" and acts all sorry.

2.) She kisses a guy or the guy kisses a girl and they jump up like "FUCK!" and then they actually called their bf/gf to tell them what happened and left.

The girl that did that was on the hot seat for about a week while the guy found out what happened, but after me and a couple other people he knew verified the story they made up and were cool. They broke up later because they were going to different colleges, but I could see myself forgiving a girl if she got drunk and kissed someone and told me about it before I would have ever ever found out. That shows actual regret in my eyes.

[Tash8]

ummmmmmm ok so if she kisses someone and then realize oh shit i have a boyfriend and he might see me!!!! or someone else might, ok let me call him because that'd be smart and he'll forgive????

when your drunk, your standards are lowered... being drunk doesn't make you forget that you have a boyfriend.... shiiit people.

[James R.]

I'm not saying it excuses the fact, but being drunk does make you more liable to cross lines you wouldn't cross. Give into things you may not normally. I've been there, man.

[,-,'-{Bar}-',-,]

Bar I agree with you. The party scenario I've seen in two forms.

1.) the way you said it. The boyfriend walks in and she's like "Fuck!" and acts all sorry.

2.) She kisses a guy or the guy kisses a girl and they jump up like "FUCK!" and then they actually called their bf/gf to tell them what happened and left.

The girl that did that was on the hot seat for about a week while the guy found out what happened, but after me and a couple other people he knew verified the story they made up and were cool. They broke up later because they were going to different colleges, but I could see myself forgiving a girl if she got drunk and kissed someone and told me about it before I would have ever ever found out. That shows actual regret in my eyes.

yeh, the 1st version you said it would be harder to forgive becuase would she have stopped if her boyfreind never walked in ? you would never know and that would play on your mind.

ummmmmmm ok so if she kisses someone and then realize oh shit i have a boyfriend and he might see me!!!! or someone else might, ok let me call him because that'd be smart and he'll forgive????

when your drunk, your standards are lowered... being drunk doesn't make you forget that you have a boyfriend.... shiiit people.

i know you get high but do you get drunk alot ?

yeh your standards are lower, but i been there were im wrecked and do something id never do sober, fucked ugly girls, got naked and walked up the street, fuck i even seen to of my guy mates kiss....they aint goni do that sober but when your wrecked at a party the jokes/dares just roll in everywere and for a laugh you just do shit, same goes with heat of the moment + liqour, you dont forget you got a other half but its like you convince yourself its ok to do it. then the next morning the ultimate SHIIIIIIIIT WTF DID I DO LAST NIGHT comes into play.

apart from sex though coz if your that drunk then your that drunk you cant fuck, thats why the reply to why your girl fucked someone else should never be "i was really drunk" coz its just bullshit

[MC Anonymous]

I don't condone cheating, nor will I ever cheat on whoever I'm with.





I will however break up instantly if I see a better chick

[Slimm]

To me cheating is kissing, sex and that shit or texting with real feelings involved. I mean i wont worry about flirting, i flirt with every girl i see too cause its just a fun game, and my gf knows that. If you trust each other it shouldnt be a problem imo.

[James R.]

What if he makes out with some girl and tells you all about it in detail and wants to have a hot hot 3some?