Friends with benefits.

[Jiskefet]

well, that's what we call them here, but the more widely used term is "fuck buddy" i'm just wondering what people think of the whole fuck buddy idea. having no strings attached purely sexual relationship with someone.

the reason i ask this, is because one of my friends, i've just heard that she has a fuck buddy, and it's changed my opinion on her entirely, especially as i always believed she was worth more than that, now she's just someones toy, regardless of wether she enjoys it or not. it's given her the tag of "slag" imo. i'm not strictly against having sex for fun, but i do get put off a girl, if i know that she's slept around.

thoughts?

Would you have sex with a girl just for fun a few times?

probably not.

Well in that case I totally agree with you , I wouldnt do that too I think. Girls who do this look very cheap to me and will loose a lot of respect imo. When a girl is still havin sex with their ex when the relationship is over for a while its pretty much the same I think. Its kinda weak. A one night stand on the other side is something totally different I think.

[BabyBLue91]

Im glad some guys find it a turn off that a girl would resort to fucking a guy just for the enjoyment.. noo pride in themselves whatsoever i feel like most guys wouldnt care if girls have a 'fuck buddy' because theyre probably looking for the same thing.. until they finally wanna settle down with a 'good girl' or whatever.

[Slimm]

Im glad some guys find it a turn off that a girl would resort to fucking a guy just for the enjoyment.. noo pride in themselves whatsoever

Why is it wrong for a girl to enjoy sex? Its normal for guys to have sex with lotsa girls, dont wanna sound like a feminist but its never wrong to have sex when both people enjoy it right?

[J Roc]

i Gotta think everyone's sort of right in this thread. i'm in the middle.

i'd RATHER have sex when im in a relationship, with someone i like , knowing that a bunch of my friends don't know what it's like to be in her pant's. ... thats just me tho i wouldn't like the fact that a bunch of guy's had their way with my girl, Especially if i was planning on marrying her lol.

but everybody gotta get off .... and chances are your gonna be single at some point, from ages 15-to whatever. i think u gotta find a balance. Maybe A Few 1 Night stands a Year if you need it, When your on the single list, But It should be somewhat special.. the more u give it away the less it'll mean when u do it with someone u really like/love.

Sorry if this don't make sense i can't think very good anymore .... But that's pretty much my view on this ever since the first time i fell in love with a girl lol. Just some food for thought , i hope it is anyway lol ... Do what you want if you disagree, Stay a virgin, or give it away every night. People think different ways. i'm kinda on both sides.

& Scotty don't be protective of other people's girls lol.

[BabyBLue91]

Im glad some guys find it a turn off that a girl would resort to fucking a guy just for the enjoyment.. noo pride in themselves whatsoever

Why is it wrong for a girl to enjoy sex? Its normal for guys to have sex with lotsa girls, dont wanna sound like a feminist but its never wrong to have sex when both people enjoy it right?

I didnt mean for it to make it sound like its only wrong when girls do that, same goes for males in my perspective. Im just saying I personally wouldnt have sex with someone only for the pleasure. If both people enjoy it just to enjoy it, having sex loses its meaning. I have too much pride in myself to do that but whatever floats your boat

[Slimm]

Im glad some guys find it a turn off that a girl would resort to fucking a guy just for the enjoyment.. noo pride in themselves whatsoever

Why is it wrong for a girl to enjoy sex? Its normal for guys to have sex with lotsa girls, dont wanna sound like a feminist but its never wrong to have sex when both people enjoy it right?

I didnt mean for it to make it sound like its only wrong when girls do that, same goes for males in my perspective. Im just saying I personally wouldnt have sex with someone only for the pleasure. If both people enjoy it just to enjoy it, having sex loses its meaning. I have too much pride in myself to do that but whatever floats your boat

Isnt sex meant to be enjoyed? I think theres nothing wrong with 2 people just enjoying themselves with sex, although i do know sex can be better with a person you really love.

[BabyBLue91]

Isnt sex meant to be enjoyed? I think theres nothing wrong with 2 people just enjoying themselves with sex, although i do know sex can be better with a person you really love.

I consider it making love.. some people think its two different things, but thats just not how I see it. yes of course youre suppose to enjoy it, but Id rather have meaning behind it.

[Logann]

I've been with girls that have slept around. They were cool and stuff
but if it would have ever gone any further I couldn't have ever really loved them

that's what's great about my girlfriend now. Well, one of the great things about her. She's still pretty fresh. Most sexy girls are trash and have been around. Mine hasn't. That's what makes me able to love her.

If she had been a slut before me, I wouldn't think so much less of her. Having one little fight right now results in a small arguement and then forgivness. If she wasn't so pure I'd probably leave her after every fight. Because she'd just be trash to me.

When I first lost my virginity to this girl we dated for like idk something like 8 months? And I broke up with her all the time. She was just nothing of value to me because she'd been with someone else, and I hadn't. Like everytime something about her and anyone else would be brought up I'd prolly just break up with her.. This happened like 20 times over that relationship, lol.

But my point is- it changes what people think. Foreal.

Brittney has never just slept around. She's been with a few guys, all of which she was in a long relationship with. So yeah, it pisses me off still thinking about it. But I don't think of her as trash. She had a boyfriend, they did it, yeah, whatever.

If anything because iiiii have slept around it makes me value her moree because of whatt I'vee donee make me feel less.. whatever

tl;dr
More casual sex = Less Value

IMO

[gutawafang]

well, that's what we call them here, but the more widely used term is "fuck buddy" i'm just wondering what people think of the whole fuck buddy idea. having no strings attached purely sexual relationship with someone.

the reason i ask this, is because one of my friends, i've just heard that she has a fuck buddy, and it's changed my opinion on her entirely, especially as i always believed she was worth more than that, now she's just someones toy, regardless of wether she enjoys it or not. it's given her the tag of "slag" imo. i'm not strictly against having sex for fun, but i do get put off a girl, if i know that she's slept around.

thoughts?

It sounds cool. I never heard of this in my country.

Really, I think it's real cool eh.

[Ella]

^ wtf

i hadda friend who neva committed to a relationship cos she liked sleeping with other dudes...
she got caught a couple of times & her stories would make me LOL but i neva could look at her the same..

[gutawafang]

I never had sex before so I won't know what it be like to have a fuck buddy. LOL. I'm just guessing it is cool.

[Arrinef]

i dont like that concept. its too........sleezy.

[Just Silver]

Fuck yea..
sounds like a deal to me

I dont feel its sleazy at all

[Arrinef]

Fuck yea..
sounds like a deal to me

I dont feel its sleazy at all

i mean if its you bangin her, yeah its badass

but think abobut it this way, what if your ex becomes someones fuck buddy?

thats what i mean by sleezy.
each has their own opinion.

[Mr. Chambers]

no....it never works....one or both party sooner or later becomes attached...

i've personally never experienced a "fuck buddy"...nor do i plan too....cuz it makes me think just how many others she would have..and all that junk

me personally...i like a woman that challenges me and makes me...i guess "work" for it....